Why You Should Stop Watching Porn, Like, Right Now

Alright look, I am going to start this post out with 0 BS, I am not going to act like some saint here, and will not speak down or preach. As I write this I can admit my own struggles with pornography and doubts that it does any harm, I simply want to share my experience with pornography and how it has shaped my life.

This morning I woke up feeling restless, tired, angry, and horny with a relentless boner that was not going to quit. Was it because I didn’t get any sleep? I didn’t finish my tasks from yesterday? Was hungover? Was coming down from heroine? None of the above! The issue was that I am on my 9th day of NoFap (Refraining from porn, masturbation and orgasms) and it is really starting to get difficult. At this point I feel like I might as well be coming off something like heroine since this is the hardest addiction I have ever had to overcome, and it has been decades in the making, and years in the breaking. This prompted me to write this article about porn, to share my experience with it and maybe help a few other people who might be struggling with this out there.

Why did I want to do this?

Well, you see, porn has always been a big part of my life…God that sounds lame! I probably started watching when I was about 13 and still remember the first video I ever saw. I was in shock, disbelief, awe, disgust, and joy all at the same time. My heart rate speed went up ten fold as sensations ran through my whole body of indescribable pleasure. I was instantly hooked.

I started off soft, watching girls kissing on YouTube, searching “boobs” in Google, you know, middle school stuff. That is until one of my “well-off” $$$ friends snatched his moms credit card and subscribed to a large and famous porn site. He shared the account with a few guys including me, which at the time I was stoked about but looking back I can see it was one of the worst things that could’ve happened to me.

In short, the next 10 years of my life spiraled out of control with video after video, always searching for the next hottest thing, the most intense video, just spending no,-wasting! hours scrolling and scrolling online.

Then I hit a wall, one day at age 16 I finally was able to land a date with the girl next door, literally! It was my dream to get to date her. The date went really well and we ended up in a back-alley of the movie theater, face to face, arms in arms. I was going to get to kiss this girl! While hooking up with her I found myself to be consumed by anxiety, are we going to have sex now? Will I perform as well as the guys in the video? Is she going to do what those girls do? Long story short, I couldn’t even kiss her without shaking, feeling full of guilt, worry and neurosis. I didn’t attribute this issue to the porn however, I just blamed myself for being awkward and let that be the excuse for a while. I still look back at all the amazing nights I could have had with incredible women and sigh a bit… but the past is the past and we must move forward. Dwelling does nothing. But how can I be 23, healthy and fit, and have such anxiety? Or such extreme nerves around the opposite sex? This motivated me to start talking with other guys who struggled with the same issues and soon found the NoFap community on Reddit.

The stories I read on NoFap were amazing! People literally transforming their lives, becoming exactly who they wanted to be, experiencing benefits that could fill 20 shopping lists, just by cutting out this one habit. Here is a few of those benefits;

-Better Eye Contact
-More Confidence
-Less Social Anxiety
-Less or No Depression/Anxiety
-Better Relationships
-More Energy
-Motivation for Self-Development
-More Time
-More Self-Love
-A Positive Outlook on Life
-Hope for the Future
-Clear-Headedness
-More enjoyment of life
-Picking up stronger habits of exercise, meditation, eating healthy, etc
-Feeling More Calm
-Better in Social Situations


The list goes on and on and on, if you don’t believe me, just check out; https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/
or
https://www.reddit.com/r/Semenretention/

Placebo? Now, we have to address the other side of the argument. Is it possible that all these “changes” are just illusions people are imagining? None have been exactly proven. My answer is so what? Even if it is a placebo effect, if it is making people take control of their lives and mind-sets, it is just as good as a “proven” solution. Also, there is something empowering to facing and conquering a thing that challenges you. It helps you grow regardless of the proof of what it does.

Along with these benefits, there have been many studies done on the neuroscience of pornography and how it negatively rewires your brain. Check out this awesome video on what porn can do to the plasticity and hard-drive of your brain: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZK6eZCYH1Y

But you don’t really need a video to explain this to you. I mean, it is pretty obvious to see how watching extremely stimulating and intense porn on a nightly basis while your brain is still forming can harm it in negative ways. It can also be easy to see how it can harm your worldview and opinions of yourself and others, especially the opposite sex. Because of those highs, porn makes everything in life more dull, chocolate doesn’t taste as good, music doesn’t sound as crisp, and nature doesn’t feel as refreshing.

Luckily, due to nueroplasticity , we can reverse these changes and begin to rewire a healthy and happy mind. Check out my article on 7 ways to positively re-wire your brain, which go great in congruence to quitting porn: https://blessedlion.com/2019/04/03/7-ways-to-rewire-your-brain-for-happiness/

After reading the stories of success and benefits of NoFap, I was instantly drawn in. I was at a low point and struggling with anxiety, feeling down, poor social skills, and general hopelessness for life. I began to try NoFap, maybe 2 years ago, and failed multiple times, but slowly progress was made. I went from watching porn once a night, to once every other night, to once every 3 days, etc. Finally I had reached a point where I was watching porn once a week (more or less), with a pretty bad binge session here and there :/ That was when I realized, holy shit! This is no joke, I am literally addicted to this stuff. I want my mind back! I want my life back!

I am now at a point where I rarely watch porn, I am not going to lie and say it doesn’t creep back into my mind every now and then and I give in to the temptation, but I can say I am now able to go 14-15 days at a time without it, and I hope to eliminate it completely.

Quitting porn has given me an amazingly empowering outlook on life and myself. Coupled with other great habits I have gotten to a point in life I never thought possible. If 2 years ago me, could see me now, he would slap himself in the face! Music sounds better, things aren’t as much of a big deal, my work is much cleaner, focus is sharp, health is great. I do intermittent fasting and eat mostly vegetarian foods, I feel light, have more self-love, enjoy reading instead of TV, people and women even seem more attracted to me. Most importantly, I am calm and cool around women and see them for the beautiful beings that they are, I connect with them on a whole new, spiritual, level.

The big thing here is try it. I am not going to say that NoFap is for you, because I don’t know what you need. But if you even remotely think porn may be having an effect on your life, just try it out, challenge yourself. Worst case scenario, you find that porn doesn’t do much to your mental state and you have no addiction to it. But if you can’t go 30 days without it, you may have more of an issue than you think.

If you are willing to take the leap and try this out let me recommend a few things that help keep you on track;
-Blocking Porn sites on your phone and laptop and having a friend put in the password
-Deleting Instagram for a while
-Meditating
-Exercise; When quitting porn you will have a lot of pent up energy and restlessness, the best thing to do here is just get it all out on a punching bag on track.
-Journal, keep track of your progress
-Join Reddit and YouTube communities of fellow NoFappers for Support
-Enjoy the ride! You will learn a lot about yourself, your mind, and your strength if you embark on this journey

Just remember, quitting porn is not like other drugs or addictions, it is always there in full supply, one finger tap away. It is supplied in unlimited amounts and completely legal. It’s like a junkie having a never-ending tube of morphine injected right into his veins anytime he wants. Beware of this, stay conscious friends, and take on the challenge to grow.

❤ ❤ ❤



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